Subject: crack/cocaine addiction
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Question: Hi,
My Father has been doing crack/cocaine for over 15 years…Im 20 now and he has been smoking and snorting for most of my life… It all started when my mother passed away and then a few months later both of his parents died, so I guess he started doing this as an escape route. When I was young it was really bad, but as I got older he started to get better, however he never stopped. My father doesn’t do it every day or every week even. Sometimes he wont do it for weeks but then he’ll do it. He’ll never do it when im home or around, it always when I go out and he knows ill be gone for long (i guess he views it as his chance to do it).
no one except for my boyfriend and my aunt who is like a mother to me knows about his problem. Hes not someone of the street that you would ever think would be doing any kind of drugs. Other than this we have a good relationship and he has a good life.
Ive been trying so hard for 15 years to get him to stop. I talk to him all of the time but he never wants to listen or hear it. He tells me constantly that hes going to stop and that he knows how much it hurts me and doesnt wanna see me cry ne more and blah blah… But he never means it and never changes. Hes been to counseling before and has seen a psychiatrist but that hasnt worked. I moved out for a while and lived with my aunt but that also didnt work. I bu books for him to try to educate him on what hes doing to himself, but that also doesnt work.
I really am not sure what to do. My father and I are really close since i dont have a mother and no siblings… We are like best friends, which makes it even more painful for me.
I do really think he wants to change, but I dont think he is willing to try hard enough, and I also think he is too weak of a person, he even says it himself. O, and to also give you a backround of him, he has never been in a detox and has never been arrested or ne thing like that.
I would really appreciate any help… My father means the world to me and the only thing I ever wanted in life is for him to stop. I want to send him to a detox but I am almost cetain that an outpatient detox would not work for him. And any time I try to get him into an in patient place they say that crack addiction is a mental thing and not a physical addiction so that dont do in patient unless hes been to outpatient a few times and has stilled relapsed… ANother thing is that my father just lost his job (not because of drugs) and we dont have insurance any more, and money is a little bit tight so we wouldnt be able to pay a lot for it… Im not even sure if this is an option or if he will even be willing to go… Any help is really appreciated!!!
Answer: The best thing you can do for your father is go to these websites www.crackcocainerecovery.com and www.devilscandy.com .On the DVC site, take the personal website tour and it will guide you how to use the site. Crack can be conquered! Everything he needs to conquer crack is in those sites.
Hope this helps,
Camille
